My father’s father was the first of my grandparents to die. \u00c2\u00a0I remember snippets and images of him, but nothing of his personality. \u00c2\u00a0He died when I was young. \u00c2\u00a0I remember his funeral, but didn’t really understand what it meant.<\/p>\n
My father’s mother was next. \u00c2\u00a0She died while I was in college, a few months after my father died. \u00c2\u00a0I remember her quite clearly. \u00c2\u00a0We were never particularly close, though. \u00c2\u00a0We’d talk about things that were new in my life, she’d smile and say how nice that was. \u00c2\u00a0I was sad when she died, but it was really just a small aftershock following my father.<\/p>\n
My mother’s father died two years ago. \u00c2\u00a0I still miss him. \u00c2\u00a0He wasn’t a close friend, but we had real conversations about things that we both cared about. \u00c2\u00a0I learned from him, and he learned from me. \u00c2\u00a0I never understood his religious views, but they didn’t keep us from talking. \u00c2\u00a0We shared attachments to Town Meeting, the Red Sox, and Massachusetts politics, and talked about them for hours over the years.<\/p>\n
My mother’s mother died yesterday. \u00c2\u00a0She’s been frail for a while and quite ill for the last two weeks, so it wasn’t a shock. \u00c2\u00a0But it hurts like a bitch. \u00c2\u00a0She’s my grandmother. \u00c2\u00a0I’ve talked and joked and laughed and chatted with her for as long as I can remember. \u00c2\u00a0And now she’s gone. \u00c2\u00a0Some things that I remember:<\/p>\n
I remember going on “Grandma-cations” when I was a kid, where my brothers and I would stay for a night or two with her in Dedham.<\/p>\n
I remember, as a child, getting her very angry. \u00c2\u00a0She said she was “very cross” with me, and I had no idea what that meant.<\/p>\n
I remember her cajoling me into piano drills and conversations in French – all a waste of her time, I’m afraid.<\/p>\n
I remember getting hand-written, 4-page letters from her while I was at college – and the first three pages were about the Red Sox.<\/p>\n
I remember giving a presentation to the exec team at Abuzz in 1999 – and having to apologize because my 80+ year old grandmother was IM’ing me on AOL about whether or not Pedro Martinez was going to win the Cy Young.<\/p>\n
I remember how she could press a button and make my mother and her siblings react like they’d been electrified. \u00c2\u00a0But somehow grandchildren got a pass, and we never got that level of disapproval.<\/p>\n
I remember when I was unemployed and rather than buy gifts for Christmas, I used my mother’s kitchen and made cookies as presents, and that made Grandma cry.<\/p>\n
I remember the day of grandpa’s funeral, when she got all of her grandchildren together at a table and just talked – about us, about her, about her life, about grandpa.<\/p>\n
Most of all I remember her stories. \u00c2\u00a0I’ll never be able to reconstruct them. \u00c2\u00a0Most of them died with her. \u00c2\u00a0But I have snippets.<\/p>\n